Can you tell when someone is lying to you? If it’s someone you are close with, such as your mother, your significant other, or your child, you may know exactly when they are lying by the habitual behaviors they exhibit when doing so. But how can you tell if a stranger is lying to you?
If you do a Google search on how to tell when someone is lying, you’ll find many articles that give you lists with items such as nervousness, voice changes, fidgeting, or averting eye contact. But if you have ever participated in an interview, these happen all the time! These are perfectly normal reactions to a relatively stressful event such as an interview. Fun fact: 23% of people admit lying during an interview.
Spotting a lie is very difficult. We all exhibit unique idiosyncrasies when we lie, rather than some set pattern that is constant across all individuals. Additionally, when someone is lying during an interview, it is likely that the majority of what they say is actually true. It is difficult to sort through the information and figure out which bit is the deceitful part while also trying to conduct an interview.
That being said, lying itself is also difficult. A skilled and knowledgeable interviewer can prepare to detect and expose lies through detailed inquiry. As discussed in the previous article, you can ask the same question multiple ways to gather more accurate information. You can continue to rephrase your question until you receive enough clarification. If someone is indeed lying, continuing to push the conversation will lead to a new choice—they must now escalate the lie or claim a misunderstanding and explain the truth. If they choose to escalate the lie, the indicators that they are lying tend to become more obvious.
Knowing what types of lies to look out for can also be helpful in detecting lies: